A fortnight ago my bosom friend Nana got married to
her heartthrob Wale, it was a beautiful ceremony with lots of good looking men,
beautiful ladies and sumptuous food. I love it when people marry young, as in
mid or late 20s or even early 30s. I believe it creates an opportunity for the
couple to grow together, learn from each other and generally face the ups
and downs of life together (assuming the spouse is at most 5 -8 years
above this age bracket). The bond that grows from these experiences is indescribable,
the couple gets to know themselves like the proverbial ‘back of their hands’,
only if they allow themselves to enjoy the openness and trust marriage offers.
her heartthrob Wale, it was a beautiful ceremony with lots of good looking men,
beautiful ladies and sumptuous food. I love it when people marry young, as in
mid or late 20s or even early 30s. I believe it creates an opportunity for the
couple to grow together, learn from each other and generally face the ups
and downs of life together (assuming the spouse is at most 5 -8 years
above this age bracket). The bond that grows from these experiences is indescribable,
the couple gets to know themselves like the proverbial ‘back of their hands’,
only if they allow themselves to enjoy the openness and trust marriage offers.
Before I digress in to the deep things of marriage,
my thoughts today are on societal expectations of a baby immediately after the
marriage ceremony. As I watched Nana and Wale do their first nuptial dance, I
reminiscence on the prayer the presiding pastor said during the wedding
ceremony and the welcome address the master of the feast gave at the reception;
I wondered why they both used the phrase – ‘we will come to celebrate in 9
months….’
my thoughts today are on societal expectations of a baby immediately after the
marriage ceremony. As I watched Nana and Wale do their first nuptial dance, I
reminiscence on the prayer the presiding pastor said during the wedding
ceremony and the welcome address the master of the feast gave at the reception;
I wondered why they both used the phrase – ‘we will come to celebrate in 9
months….’
In truth, this is a common statement at marriage
ceremonies and I am compelled to ask whatever happened to most couple’s
expectation of 6 months to 1 year ‘discovering each other’ period, work
exigencies e.g the six month probation of a new job and other private reasons.
ceremonies and I am compelled to ask whatever happened to most couple’s
expectation of 6 months to 1 year ‘discovering each other’ period, work
exigencies e.g the six month probation of a new job and other private reasons.
I fondly remember how six months into my marriage,
my younger sister informed me of the numerous prayer points offered by my mum
(the love of a mother!) on my behalf; not remembering that my hubby and I lived
in two cities (work constraints) and our periodic visits may often not coincide
with that ‘egg’ period.
my younger sister informed me of the numerous prayer points offered by my mum
(the love of a mother!) on my behalf; not remembering that my hubby and I lived
in two cities (work constraints) and our periodic visits may often not coincide
with that ‘egg’ period.
Do not get me wrong, these societal expectations
are good but this is just a subtle reminder to most young couples (I feel so
old) never to lose sight of their own expectations of an agreed waiting
period (if any) before having children. This decision should also apply to
other aspect of their lives, please welcome societal expectations of marriage
and every other thing BUT never trade YOURS for it!
are good but this is just a subtle reminder to most young couples (I feel so
old) never to lose sight of their own expectations of an agreed waiting
period (if any) before having children. This decision should also apply to
other aspect of their lives, please welcome societal expectations of marriage
and every other thing BUT never trade YOURS for it!
Happy married life Nana
and Wale!
and Wale!
Photo credits – https://www.pinterest.com/duba23/soulful-wedding-inspirations/
4 Comments
Unknown
September 4, 2015 at 9:03 amThis comment has been removed by the author.
Trendy Mother
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Trendy Mother
September 4, 2015 at 8:40 am@ Nkem Okechukwu, my dear that is true o. When they baby comes every one will know nau.
If they are more concerned, let them pray in silence.
I rest my case
Unknown
September 4, 2015 at 8:23 amI no fit shout. Make them ask and pray, the couple and God will call them when they are ready