My grandmother once told me that the number of children a woman nursed was the evidence of wealth and fertility. In those days, a woman’s dressing consists mainly of a piece of wrapper and strings of beads and these they wore with pride. In most cultures, the wrappers were tied in such a way that there was ample display of their “evidence” of fertility and wealth. However, I greatly love the era I was born into, as I can’t imagine what it will be like dressing without some good undies; not to mention lingerie!
In the course of the week, I had a chat with a friend who told me that her colleague advised her to discontinue breast feeding her baby exclusively if she wanted to retain the bounce in her breast. In response, I asked my friend if she would rather trade boosting her baby’s immunity to retaining a “shape”. She could only smile in response. I was amazed that my friend had forgotten so soon how elated she was some days back when she shared her success at feeding her baby with only breast milk even after resuming from maternity leave. Women!
Am still surprised at how the thought of a “bounce” could unnerve her. Today, every mother wants to display a form unscarred by pregnancy, nursing and motherhood. The question I ask aloud is – what change has occurred between my grandmother’s era and ours?
We all worry about changes as we pass through the different stages of life. Most women are obsessed with a change in shape, clothe size and for my friend ”her bust”. I am guilty too. I worry about the increase in my clothe size and other changes I have experienced even though there are minute. Yes oooo! Just a little! Lol!!. Every time I complain, I remember my mother’s endless teasing of, “when will your bust and butts ever grow out” (as if they were non-existent). At that, I quietly offer thanks instead. My mum is now a witness to my transformation!
I think that 70% (my statistic though!) of women still have good looking shapes despite weathering pregnancy, child birth and motherhood. They come out still looking good! (In my eyes sha! *big smile*). I know a good number of my sisters in the folk will disagree and will be quick to remind me what nursing has left of their bust or how broad the waist lines have become and for the not so lucky ones – the “bag” that pregnancy and child birth has left with them. Even sleeping in the gym and body magic is yet to wok their charms “big smile”. A friend, who is a very slim beauty, once joked that the best part of being a mother is acquiring additional curves. That joke is what I will call “different stroke for different folks”
We need to be reminded that if we do not love and appreciate our body, no one will. If we do not consciously thank God for the transformation experienced in the bid to bring to the world “a miracle” that ONLY God can create, no one will give us cause to! Should I remind us of the “many” that would gladly give an arm to experience the joy and transformation of pregnancy and motherhood? Relax joor! Welcome the changes!
We often and silently wish we could pass through the phases of life without the inevitable – change. Henry David Thoreau said “things do not change, we change”. Let’s stop desiring to eat and have our cake.
Let’s acknowledge that change is constant and adjust our lives to suit each phase. Just as we welcomed teen and adulthood, let’s adjust to accommodate the little or noticeable changes that occur as we pass through the motherhood phase of life. Where there is need for “push-ups or padded” bras to lift up the “fallen” or a change of pant or skirts to flaunt the additional waist line/hips or flowered tops or pleated shirts to conceal the tummy, etc. Let’s wear them with pomp and style!
Let’s endeavour to eat right, exercise frequently and dress to fit our shape (new or old) and age. Most importantly, let’s accept the changes in our body gracefully and thankfully.